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2/9/2025 0 Comments

Abbi's Top Albums of 2024 & Songs of Good Hope

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For Jordan's end of year album wrap up, I decided to put together my own top albums of 2024. We posted it over on his website and social media accounts a few weeks back but I wanted to share it here and also dig a little deeper into some of my favorite songs from the year.

Let's be real, 2024 was a doozy and 2025 has gotten off to an even rockier start for a lot of us big hearted people. So it's no surprise that right out of the gate, I got so attached to the soft lyrics & beautiful melodies of Andrea von Kampen who is probably my most favorite music discovery in the last 5 years! Her latest album Sister Moon was suggested to me in a Spotify Discovery playlist and when I tell you I was hooked, I mean it. I binged all her prior EPs and singles. What a gift her music was to me last year! Her album came in at number 3 so let's back track to my top two albums next.
PictureAdrianne Lenker - Bright Future
My top album of 2024 is no surprise to literally anyone who came into our shop or paid any attention to the songs I shared in my stories this year. Adrianne Lenker's Bright Future is maybe the Abbiest of Abbi albums I have ever heard and it's chock full of childhood nostalgia - bittersweet memories, grief, but mostly this album is a long poetry book of love.

​The way we love ourselves, love our partner, love our family dog who has long passed, the way we try to love our community and the love that lies buried inside us all as we travel through the weary human experience.

It was hard to choose a favorite song from this album because I have them all memorized, but Free Treasure hits me right now because it's such a deep reflection of where Jordan and I are in our relationship at year 18 - he's cooking dinner, we're processing childhood pain, we are giving each other patience and pleasure - it's simply free treasure. And while I do feel like this album is about all encompassing love and some songs I cannot help but relate to my relationship, the album is mostly sung to a woman. So for my lesbian friends looking for a beautiful love album, this one is a must listen.

​Other special songs on the album for me are: Evol - probably the best written song on the album, Sadness is a Gift - a song for those grieving, and Real House which is the album opener will bring you to your knees with all the feels. Poetry to music, this album is simply incredible.

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My 2nd favorite album of the 2024, was Nick Cave's Wild God. This album is a continuation of a set of records Nick has been putting out as he processes the loss of his son who died tragically and had a crippling effect on Cave's life and his wife. 

This album seems to be a coming through it - there are crushing songs of grief but as the record builds, it ends with a triumphant exclamation of hope for carrying on despite the long, hard nights. 

If you are hurting. If you are grappling with your faith. If you are trudging through your day to day, this album is for your soul. My favorite song on the album is Joy. And maybe one of my favorite lyrics of the year comes from this song, it says:
"And all across the world they shout bad words, they shout angry words
All across the world they shout out their angry words
About the end of love, yet the stars stand above the earth
Bright, triumphant metaphors of love
Bright, triumphant metaphors of love
Blind us all who care to stand and look beyond
And care to stand and look beyond above"
I could unpack every single one of my top ten best albums, like John Moreland's Visitor which comes in close 4th on the top five and his song Silver Sliver which is such a song for how I feel right now in life and I wish more people knew about John and his incredible writing and talent.

​What a musical balm he has been to my bruised heart over the last several years.
You can find the rest of my list below along with my favorite songs from each of my top albums. Jordan and I made up a fun Tea & Records playlist that combines both of our favorite songs from our lists. You can see his full list on his Sudden Light Records blog, which is also where our playlist is housed, too!
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1/20/2025 0 Comments

A longing for hope leads to a call to action...

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It's been a couple of years since I have been to a church service. Part of that is on me as I have avoided church after trying unsuccessfully to find a church home that did not elevate an American man and a political movement that does not represent my faith over the truth about who Jesus Christ was as a man, and as a savior. I have felt for a long time a disenfranchised negativity toward church because of the discriminating vitriol that has taken root there. I learned last night, I am just going to the wrong churches.

Over the years, I have missed the community of church, the music, the challenging message of action and conviction that I once experienced weekly. For me, a white lady with a ministry degree, I have watched white churches turn a sharp shoulder away from the true teachings of Jesus and move toward a nationalist patriotism that has left me uncomfortable and disengaged.

I had given up on church and shame on me for it. What a privilege I have to walk away from the "messy work of compromise and community."


​Last night, I felt a tugging in my soul to be somewhere holy where I could pray for our country and whatever is to come today forward. I am glad I followed that calling to go to church. I went to the Martin Luther King, Jr. Unity Service put on at Saint Mark Baptist Church in Little Rock, Arkansas. The Lord, I feel certain, found me there.

I went into that service looking for hope, but I left with a challenge & a conviction. From the spirit led worship from two choirs and a soloist who sang one of my most beloved gospel songs, Precious Lord, Take My Hand. I was already knowing I had come to a place where God was "pulling up."

There were several meaningful prayers from pastors across the city. But, a deep stirring in my heart started when Pastor George Shears, III of New Hope Baptist Church began to pray.

"Lord, we come to you with heavy hearts in a world where peace feels distant, yet our longing for it is deep. We pray for peace in this nation. Peace that is not just the absence of violence but the presence of justice."

"We are living in a time where banning an app is seems more urgent than banning militaristic armament. Lord, help us to see the value of every human life and to act in ways that protect and preserve it. Teach us to prioritize what builds peace, and safety over what divides and distracts us."

"We pray for peace in our nation, where leadership is not measured by crowd size but by character. May integrity and humility replace arrogance and division. Raise up leaders who value truth, justice, and compassion above personal gain. And may we as citizens hold ourselves to those same standards. As we reflect on Dr. King's dream, we pray for the courage to transform weapons of war into tools for building and healing. We ask for the strength to confront the injustices that disrupt peace in our communities to challenge systems of inequality and to build bridges where others erect walls.

Finally, Lord, we ask that your peace, which surpasses all understanding, would guard our hearts and our minds. Let it begin within us, spread to our homes, and flow into our neighborhoods, our nation and this world.
May we remember that the work of peace is not passive but active. Not easy, but essential. In the name of the Prince of Peace, in Jesus Christ, we pray, amen."


By the time Brittany Stillwell got up there to give the prayer of Unity, I knew God had put me in that pew next to Debbie, my new church friend, on purpose. (I went by myself and can't help but make new friends.)

Brittany, said the hard part outloud before her prayer. She said, "My knees are knocking. I have been asked to give the Prayer of Unity, and as a white woman in Little Rock, I do not think I can deliver a prayer on unity without a little confession along the way. So for my brothers and sisters in this room for whom this confession does not apply, would you help me? Will you pray for me and the rest of us that we might be able to own what is OURS to repair?" You can find her prayer & confession at 1:24:50.

The entire service built into an outpouring of hope and conviction and a call to action that requires all of us to be involved in. A strike against apathy and silence in the face of what we know is wrong even if it is "legal." I wish I could quote the ENTIRITY of Dr. Fredrick D. Haynes, III sermon, but I won't because YOU should take the time this morning to watch & listen.

If you are like me, and you feel uneasy this morning, I encourage you to hear that message. You can watch this program from start to finish here: https://www.youtube.com/live/qsWGZJaMsxg?si=i-jyd5KgOykP2Q2M

Dr. Haynes' sermon starts around 2:04:20.

Thank you Saint Mark Baptist Church for challenging and refocusing me as we move into a new era of our country on what not just WE are called to do, but what I am called to do. And thank you always to the beautiful City of Little Rock for showing up time and again to remind me what community really is in service & in action - not just words & feel good quotes.
Be well friends, and be active. And never ever be silent in the face of hate & wrongdoing. Now more than ever, we must speak up, show up, and hold up the strong constructs of justice and compassion that our black brothers and sisters have worked tirelessly to create in the face of hate and apathy without our help.

Just because they did the work, doesn't mean they didn't need our help, and it sure doesn't give us an excuse to let them continue to carry the load of equality & human rights for all without us picking up the weight that is ours to bear.

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1/7/2025 0 Comments

New Year, Old Roots, Same Abbi

A new year is upon us, and I can't help but feel the need to make some changes. For most of my time with Abbi's Teas & Things I have used social media to reach, connect & share my thoughts, teas & things. But the root of this little tea story of mine starts with a blog. Before the tea shop ever came to be, when I was in my "hustle" years of corporate advertising - there was my tea blog. It started out as teatumblr dot com, then transitioned to myteasteeper dot com. From about 2011 to 2017, this was where I shared my tea thoughts & knowledge along with a variety of tea reviews from tea shops & tea companies in the US and afar. It was a big outlet for me from the fast paced corporate ladders I was climbing and I got to try a TON of different types of tea which only honed my blending mastery.

Many of you may know about how I hit a wall in the corporate world, and then I took that year off when my dad passed away. You can read about it on this blog post I wrote about putting my heart on a shelf several years ago. And well, I have kept up with the blog here on abbiteas.com off and on over the years but not with great consistency. For 2025, I think it's time to go back to the roots of my love for tea. I'm even thinking about having some guest posts from some of my favorite tea folks! If that interests you, let me know!!
Abbi Sawyer Siler, 1993, Manteo Elementary
1993 Abbi at Manteo Elementary School
I think it's good to go back to the basics, and let's face it: I am growing weary of the song and dance of social media. I feel like I spent the last 7 years building this online audience on all these platforms, creating ALL this content, and now with the platforms catering more to AI bots, misinformation, and just the general slog of people sharing stuff none of us really wanna see or care about - I just want to get back on the blog. 

I feel like I have been blogging since I was 13 when I hand coded my own geo-cities website complete with flash star fall flash animation & an interactive guestbook. From geocities, I found myself sharing on livejournal in the high school years and in college it was Xanga. Oh, the millennial nostalgia I feel reflecting on those blog sites of yester-year. And, let's not forget Myspace Notes. May she RIP! lolol

I won't completely disappear from Facebook and Instagram, but I am going to be slowing down how much effort I put into those platforms this year. I am ready to clear out the bots and spammers and the weird stuff in my newsfeed - most of which isn't stuff I even actually follow.
The way I see it, the people who really care will show up here and read - when and if they want to which (for me at least) make it a little more intimate & meaningful.
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Everyone is talking about 2024 and for me, what a year. It felt like same level of hurdles I endured in 2020. Just a lot of unexpected weird life, family and day to day stuff to overcome. But we are putting that year in a box and moving forward, maybe a little beat-up and bruised, but we've still got a lot of fight left. Some of the things that got me through 2024 were good books, good music, and good friends. Thank goodness for that! Be on the look out next week for my 2024 top lists. It's gonna be a good one with some special songs, books and poems.

In the meantime, here's a few of the winter tea blends now available:
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 🍌 Banana Nut Roo  - this brew is tried & true. I think this roo is about 4 or 5 years old now, I remember coming up this blend after trying a different banana tea that just tasted horrible like an old piece of laffy taffy. Bleh. I wanted to a banana tea that was smooth and creamy and not artificial tasting. I used sweet notes of honeybush and rich nutty textures of red rooibos with creamy marigold and whole hunks of unsweetened banana chips. It turned out delicious, too! For awhile, this was served over at Rocktown Distillery as a tasty hot toddy with their Bourbon Cream. Highly recommend. This blend is now offered year round, but I am mostly sipping it in the cold winter months. 
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❄️ Winter's Solace  - a beloved winter blend of mine. One of my most missed throughout the year, I think. This was an oopsy blend. I wasn't paying attention and poured gunpowder green tea in with the baihao yinzhen and so I added some spearmint, rose hips, and orange peels and there she was as if I was meant to blend her all along. I like to describe this blend as a softer Moroccan Mint type tea. The soft silver needle pairs so nicely with the rose and orange and the gunpowder elevates the whole cup of tea. I have a handful of customers, looking at you Denise, who swear this is their secret elixir for a bad day or a bad cold. I always love it when accidents become happy miracles. Life can be that way, sometimes.
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🍊 Spiced Orange - oh how every single tea house, shop, company has a Spiced Orange tea on their menu. But I will forever stand by mine. Rich citrusy notes with deep & delicious ceylon cinnamon chips, and the soft finish of cardamom seed. In my personal opinion, it's the best spiced orange tea out there but I am partial to it because I brewed this one for ME. I just hate the artificial flavorings a lot of tea brands put over their tea leaves. I used a nice orange extract over a ceylon black tea along with really high quality cinnamon and cardamom. The orange peels are organic if that matters to you, and this cuppa just brews so well. It's aromatic, it is full flavored, and with a spot of your favorite local honey - there's really nothing better for a cold winter day.
The full line up of my deep winter tea blends is now available under Seasonal Blends on the online store. If you're needing to stock up on some teas, I recommend them all - but these three are a few of my most favorite winter staples! Happy Steeping! 
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2/27/2024 0 Comments

Abbi's Tea Madness • 2024

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 Tea Madness Rules & What-not:
The initial bracket is posted below to kick-off the games. Sales data from the last 3 years will determine the winner of each tea match-up; however, each week the updated bracket will be posted and the comments will be open to vote for who you think should win the match. These comments will be added to each tea blend's total as "People's Choice" points. Should any two blend be close, the "People's Choice" points may determine the blends outcome. Comments will be gathered weekly on Facebook, Instagram & that week's tea bracket blog post. The bracket with the most accurate outcomes will win a $100 Abbi's Teas & Things gift card to be used online, in the store or at any tea stand, AND an Abbi's Teas & Things goodie bag!
  • Tea Brackets are due no later than 11:59pm on March 2nd, 2024!
  • Email a photo of your bracket - fully filled out - to [email protected]. Any incomplete brackets will be discarded.
  • No purchase necessary. Anyone can participate, though some working knowledge of my tea blends will be helpful!
  • Three brackets per person, but only one is required to participate. Only one bracket & one participant will win.
  • Participants can post in the comments on Facebook or Instagram each week to add "People's Choice" points to any blend of their choosing. Only one comment per blend per participant each week. (ie: no spamming the comments to make one blend win, etc.) You may vote for more than one match each week.
    • A sample comment vote might look like: "I am rooting for Turmeric Sunrise, Cherry Fig & Mocha Mate this week!" Each blend would receive one "People's Choice" point in addition to their already calculated sales totals.
The bracket will be updated every Tuesday on Facebook, Instagram & the tea blog at www.abbiteas.com. Comments will be open for People's Choice voting for the FIRST round on Facebook & Instagram next Tuesday, March 5th for this first week's round of matches.

SEE THE DOWNLOADABLE PDF BELOW!
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2/7/2023 0 Comments

Abbi's Tea Madness • 2023

Y'all! I have been wanting to do this for a couple of years, but I needed more sales data and some time to figure out how to make this work! I am SO excited to do this! Here's how it's going to work:

2023 Tea Madness Rules & What-not:

The initial bracket is posted below to kick-off the games. Sales data from the last 3 years will determine the winner of each tea matchup; however, each week the updated bracket will be posted and the comments will be open to vote for who you think should win the battle. These comments will be added to each tea blend's total as "People's Choice" points. Should any two blend be close, the "People's Choice" points may determine the blends outcome. Comments will be gathered weekly on Facebook, Instagram & that week's tea bracket blog post. The bracket with the most accurate outcomes will win a $100 Abbi's Teas & Things gift card to be used online, in the store or at any tea stand AND an Abbi's Teas & Things goodie bag!
  • Tea Brackets are due no later than 11:59pm on February 10th!
  • Email a photo of your bracket - fully filled out - to [email protected]. Any incomplete brackets will be discarded. Please put your full name & email address at the top of your bracket.
  • No purchase necessary. Anyone can participate, though some working knowledge of my blends will be helpful!
  • Two brackets per person but only one is required to participate. Only one bracket & one participant will win.
  • Participants can post in the comments on Facebook, Instagram or the tea blog post each week to add "People's Choice" points to any blend of their choosing. Only one comment per participant per week. (ie: no spamming the comments to make one blend win, etc.) You may vote for more than one match each week.
    • A sample comment vote might look like: "I am rooting for Turmeric Sunrise, Cherry Fig & Mocha Mate this week!" Each blend would receive one "People's Choice" point in addition to their already calculated sales totals.​
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The bracket will be updated every Tuesday on Facebook, Instagram & the tea blog at www.abbiteas.com. Comments will be open for People's Choice voting on Facebook & Instagram  tonight for this first week's round of matches.
  • A printable PDF version of the bracket can be downloaded here: 
bracket2023.pdf
File Size: 198 kb
File Type: pdf
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At the end of the day, I just want this to be really fun! I can't wait to see all your bracket predictions! 
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5/16/2022

How about a record store, too?

​It was the fall of 2007, I was a senior in college and Jordan had transferred to the same school for what turned out to be only one semester. I wasn't really dating and had my mind focused on graduating. 

Jordan and I started as friends. Our common interest in music lead to burning mixed CDs and putting them in each other's campus mailboxes. Sometimes there was a note, sometimes the note was the title of the mix. 

I was constantly in and out of flea markets - a lifelong hobby. I had the only record player in the dorm and a large Bob Dylan poster hung in my dorm room all 4 years. To be fair, I had a pretty weird array of interests music-wise. I was always hunting for old Frank Sinatra albums or Barbara Streisand. I was always pretty casual about the vinyl, but after a few trips with me - Jordan got really into it. He liked the rare hard-to-find stuff, he was always looking things up, making lists. He even wrote Tumblr music reviews for a while.

He kissed me for the first time on the back of a church van after I got stung by a wasp on a hayride. It was late October. I remember that kiss like it was yesterday because even with the sting, I floated the whole night. The next day he asked me if I wanted to go steady.

During a long-distance stint, we would read to each other over the phone. One of our favorite books we read to each other was Love Is a Mixtape by Rob Sheffield. Each chapter started with a mix. 

Fast forward almost 15 years later, his kisses still make me float. We still make each other mixes - though they are swapped via music streaming apps & Bluetooth. We just celebrated our 13th wedding anniversary - and while we've seen a lot of hardship, our love has weathered those storms.

I grew up on the Outer Banks, and it's been home for me my whole life. Jordan and I lived here for several years at the beginning of our marriage when I was the Marketing Director for Kitty Hawk Kites. That was 10 years ago. After being out here for a while, we decided that since all of his family and all of my mom's side of the family were in Arkansas - we should move back. We had babies on our minds. Sadly, babies aren't a part of our story. We weathered those losses, too.

Jordan has always wanted to own a record store. When I made the leap 5 years ago with the nudging of my mom and him by my side to open the tea shop the "& things" was open-ended to tack that on once he was ready to leave his career and go for it. In the original design of my very first tea shop website, I even had tea & records on the about page. 

When COVID hit and then never ceased, Jordan and I kept coming out here for little stay-cations. Trying to escape the heaviness of COVID and the surging cases. Every trip out here, we both could feel the pulling of the tides. Then he looked at me and said, "What would you say if we moved back?" I said, "Don't even say it out loud if you aren't serious." He was.

For the last 6-9 months we've been trying to figure it out. Make it work and find a way to do it. Every single door opened back up for us. It was time, and it was time for Jordan's dream, too. 

If you have seen Everything Everywhere All At Once, you may know my reference here. Jordan is my Waymond. He is the kindest human I have ever known. And not kind in a saccharine way - genuinely the best person. He is patient, supportive, and unwavering. I cannot tell you how proud of him I am. 

Jordan's record store will be housed inside the tea shop! A big part of the reason I dropped the restaurant side of things was the blows of COVID and the hassle of the ups/downs/customer rants but also it has made room for Jordan's new adventure. 

The Bob Dylan poster will hang at the shop, and so will the Radiohead poster along with two large shadow boxes showcasing our mixed CDs, notes & concert stubs spanning our lives together. I bet there will be more of those to be made, too.

You can follow his Facebook Page Sudden Light Records. He's on Instagram @suddenlightrecords, too. Help me share the page and get his likes up on both accounts. You can sign up for his e-mail specials & announcements at www.suddenlightrecords.com.

Pinch me, y'all! We're doing it. Tea & Records by the sea - together!
I love you, Jordan. Thanks for being my best friend. 🍵🏝🎸
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4/18/2022

Hello, Outer Banks • Taking the Tea Shop Home

For those who know me well, you know my heart has and will always be by the Atlantic ocean. Specifically, on the Outer Banks of North Carolina. In the past, I have dreamed about having a 2nd location on the beach for the tea shop but I would not have dreamed it would have happened this way.

During the ups and downs of COVID in 2021, Jordan and I have been taking mini-retreats to the beach. Small cottage getaways where we could isolate but also relax. During these trips, we spent a lot of time talking about what if...

As I began to make the hard decision of letting go of my location in Hillcrest, this kept bubbling up for both of us. We explored some options and suddenly doors just began to swing wide open for us to move back to my favorite little island where I grew up.
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Opening at Jockey's Ridge Crossing in May 2022 -
​official opening date TBD!
 
We found a space with an ocean view and TONS of parking! I honestly cannot express my excitement about the parking lots the shopping center I am moving into offers after years of parking trials and tribulations on the corner of Ash & Kavanaugh. The shop will be retail only - no dine-in. Jordan and I decided this would be best since we still have a lot of uncertainty about COVID 19 impacts going into the next few years. Despite the lack of testing and reporting, the United States is currently in its 6th surge as a nation and as a business owner, I am weary from the constant roller coaster this has brought to my day-to-day operations.

I will be serving 1 hot tea of the day during the summer months and lots of iced tea options. These will be brewed at my off-site kitchen where I will also do all the blending and online orders. The shop itself will be a spot where you can grab a tea to-go, by the jug, or choose from over 100 loose leaf tea blends I create! I've already found local produce & honey so I can be sure to support Carolina farmers and bees!
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Little ole me on the OBX circa 1994
Mom and Jessi will be in Arkansas, but they are both excited about my adventure though we are all a little sad. There are already plans for visits and who knows, maybe one day they will join me again on the coast! Jordan will be finishing out his time with Walmart this week. We have some exciting news about his business endeavors (that will be housed in the tea shop with me!!!) in the next few weeks. 

I will continue to offer online shipping like I have been doing for 3+ years now - and I will ship all over the United States! Yes, even the Holiday Spirit Christmas Jars will be available for online ordering later this year - I know many of you have already asked!

Thank you again for your continued support through the transition. I will greatly miss Arkansas and all of the memories this place has held for me in the last 8 years. It's just time to go home, to be happy and free and me. 
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My dad took a series of photos in 1992 at Jockey's Ridge of me dancing and playing on the castle. Jockey's Ridge is the largest living sand dune on the east coast. The castle is still buried under the dune - what used to be a themed mini-golf course. You can see the dunes from the front windows of my new shop.
​Full circle, 30 years later. 

2/11/2022

Farewell, Hillcrest: last day will be March 20th

I’ve struggled all week on when to make this announcement because it’s a bittersweet one that has come with a lot of thought over the last 6 months. Do I tell them before my anniversary? On it? After Valentine’s Day? I decided for the day after my anniversary because I wanted to cap off my 4 years positively and start year 5 with the new changes. Good changes, exciting changes - but really hard changes. 

Thanks so much to everyone who came by the shop yesterday. It turned out to be a pretty quiet day and Mom came by and we got to spend some time together which we hadn’t gotten to do in a long time with our constant busy schedules we have been juggling. 

But - last night, there y’all were for the tea talk! Folks from all over the state and country. Twelve states were represented just from who I could see in the chat and orders afterward. We had a good time. I cried, and then laughed as I poured tea on my computer which was a very ME moment!  I almost spilled the beans in the telling of how my little shop came to be, but I pulled myself together.

So here we are on this Friday before Valentine’s Day and I’m still struggling to put it into words.

When I started this tea shop, this location was like an answered prayer. The building was green, it had this big patio, it was in the perfect spot with the perfect space and so much character. Every single door swung open for me in 2017 and I opened on February 10th, 2018. Those first two years operating, I was profitable and booming. I remember starting 2020 extremely optimistic about the business - we had a huge turnout for National Hot Tea Day that year, too. 

And then COVID hit in March 2020 and I confidently went to the curb with my tea stand thinking it’d be a fun solution that would only last a few months. Boy, was I wrong!  

Over the last two years, I have ebbed and flowed and changed my operations all while putting a considerable effort into growing my e-commerce and national footprint with fellow tea lovers. And, it’s worked. When the weather was bad or when I needed to take some days for self-care, I built a well-oiled online process that gave me the freedom to survive this pandemic without putting my family or my customers at risk. I’m really proud of that. And as I’ve learned in therapy over the last year, I need to acknowledge that success without the word ‘but’ at the end of the sentence.

BUT, it seems COVID is not over and we are in between surges. As many of you know, our family holds several disabilities and health conditions which makes all of this a bit scarier for us. I also have a host of customers who made my shop a safe place before and during COVID as they navigated their own lives, too. 

The reality is, I don’t feel comfortable having people eating and gathering in small or large groups unmasked for several hours a day at the shop. The potential exposure is just not worth it to me for my family or my customers. I can’t even get some folks to wear a mask for 5 minutes as they “just want to look around” right now without them swearing at me or causing a scene. It’s exhausting and depressing.

I am not sure when I’ll feel comfortable with the restaurant side of my operation again - but I know one day that piece will return to me. Just not right now. 

Okay, out with it, Abbi…

With the growth of my online business and the success of my retail and to-go only operation that I’m currently operating in, I’ve decided to let the overhead of this space go so I can maintain profitability.

My last day in Hillcrest will be March 20th, 2022. This isn’t goodbye. I’m NOT going out of business, I’m just “shifting my sails,” as Mom says. Over the next months, I’ll be finalizing a small manufacturing space where my online and blending operations will be housed and expanded! Then I will be transitioning to a smaller retail space to have my day-to-day operations. 

I’m letting go of sweet tea parties, cute little princesses, and the anxiety of having to constantly say no to people who only want to come to my shop for large group gatherings. Tea Talks will be virtual for now, but I’ll be doing some outdoor tea talks when the weather warms up consistently, too.

It’s really bittersweet. 

I’m excited about what comes next, but I’m unbelievably sad about saying goodbye to what has been the best thing that’s ever happened to me - something I built and did and thrived in, despite every hurdle. I feel like the very essence of who I am is imprinted on the walls of this tea shop. And I’m grieving the loss, to be honest about it.

I’ll miss my puppy regulars and the ebb and flow of Hillcrest, but I sure won’t miss the parking issues. 

Y’all have supported me this far, and I hope you’ll continue to support me as I make this transition. You can come by the shop through March 20th. I’ll be OPEN Wednesday-Saturday 10 am-6 pm and Sundays 1 pm-4 pm. 

Come late March/early April, I will have an update on where I’ll be next. That’ll be an exciting announcement we can all look forward to in the future.
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12/19/2021

An Abbi Guide to surviving the Pandemic - Part 2: TV & Movies

Hello, again! Continuing the theme of what's gotten me through 2020/2021, I want to share some television shows, documentaries, and movies that helped me cope these last two years. There are the obvious shows like Ted Lasso that I won't feature since EVERYONE knows about -- instead, I'll be showcasing some favorites that are off the beaten path but are definitely worth the time. I hope you'll drop your favorite TV and movies in the comments, too!
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My Octopus Teacher was recommended to me toward the end of 2020. I have probably watched this documentary the most of anything I will post about in this blog post. It's about a man who found solace on the seashore and began to explore the kelp forest below the water but befriended and observed an octopus through the entirety of her life cycle.

I often think "What if this film was never made?" "What if he had never gone to that specific spot on that specific beach in that specific part of the ocean where this little octopus was living?"

The entire film is about nature and our ability to connect with the world around us if we just are the tiniest bit curious and willing to pay attention. I get emotional about this documentary. I feel deeply connected to it. The film is about hope and healing and unlikely friendships. For me, it was a reminder that by working on ourselves we open ourselves up to unlikely experiences that can change our lives for the better - and by sharing our vulnerable stories, we can teach those around us that it's okay to be broken and whole at the same time. Since this was filmed in South Africa, I recommend a nice rooibos blend while watching this documentary!

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Another film I spent a lot of time with was the new animated film, Raya and The Last Dragon. This film is deeply earnest. It's so full of idealism and so crushingly on the nose against cynicism that it's no surprise that it's now on my list of top Disney films.

I feel like this one got a bit overlooked due to the release happening during the pandemic and only being available on Disney+ but the message was one I think the entire world needed. 

The film is about a young woman who experiences a loss at an early age that results in her becoming a very untrusting and hyper-independent young woman who struggles to accept help from others put on her path to find the lost dragon. 

The movie is a coming-of-age film about the resentments we harbor and how our lack of trust in others is ultimately what breaks our spirits and holds us back from being our best selves. It's also about learning to forgive even when we are justified in our feelings of betrayal. 

You can watch this with your kids, but it's got a very big kid message along with several laughs. I recommend the Jasmine Pearl green tea for tea sips!

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Oh, Joe Pera, how I love you. This TV Show is the best-kept secret of the ENTIRE pandemic. Joe Pera Talks With You is about a man living in the mid-west doing normal everyday things but somehow in these 11-minute episodes, Joe tugs right at the heart of you with life lessons and sentiments that may seem completely mundane but are incredibly wholesome and tender.

Joe Pera is a comedian who likes tomatoes, his grandmother, and his community. You can find the show at midnight on AdultSwim or stream both seasons on HBO. The 3rd season just finished up a couple of weeks ago. There is also a special called Relaxing Old Footage with Joe Pera which is delightful and Bergamot really enjoyed the fishies.

This show was something Jordan and I looked forward to each week. The episodes are short and sweet and leave you feeling warm inside. You also learn some really random things along the way - like how to build a chair, how to be a better friend & what it's like accepting people who are different than you but are worthy of your love simply because they are your neighbor. Best watched with a pot of The Earl - a solid classic tea.

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This movie is a decade old from one of the most imaginative minds in cinema, Spirited Away has been a go-to feel better movie for me and Jordan for years now, but we watched a lot of it in 2020. 

This whimsical tale of a young, determined girl who is trying to save her parents is a good coming of age story that's full of fun. The illustration is beautiful and there are moments of such profound kindness between the characters that you cannot help but choke up on the beauty of it all.

Miyazaki movies in general are great for lifting spirits - but Spirited Away is at the top of the list. Another close second worth watching is The Wind Rises. That's another beautiful story for those who love the passionate pursuit of dreams, aviation & flight.

Back to Spirited Away, I recommend watching this movie when you have some time to really unpack the story afterwards and the themes of friendship, remembering who you are even when others try to steal your name and the very essence of yourself, and the importance of caring for our rivers and streams. Best tea to brew with this film? The Lifted Spirit green tea blend!

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Last but certainly not least, Love on the Spectrum is delightful! This series began in 2019 before the pandemic but released its 2nd season this past year. It follows several young adults who are on the spectrum through the ups and downs of dating. 

This is a reality TV show that will warm your heart and hopefully shed light on the beautiful and sometimes complex dynamics of dating with a disability. I enjoyed this show so much that I shared it with Jessica & Donald as it explored serious topics like love, sex, and marriage. 

There are so many nuggets of truth and refreshing honesty and dating advice is shared throughout each episode by these beautiful human beings. You will laugh and cry and cheer each of them on as they find their matches - and come to understand that not every match is quite right. 

It's hard to choose a favorite member of this cast, but I truly hope Michael finds his one true love. It's the hope of my little soft tender heart!

This one is best sipped with the Cherry Chamomile (Jessica's favorite) or the Ginger Peach (Donald's favorite) because they inspire me and their love is so special and worth celebrating. 

12/10/2021

An Abbi Guide to Surviving The Pandemic - Part 1: Books

Here we are at the end of 2021 and we all thought we'd be out of this weird and tumultuous pandemic by now. With Omicron variant and Delta surging through the world - STILL - I am spending a lot of time reflecting on the self-care practices that have gotten me through these past two years. From TV shows, to really good books, to favorite songs & podcasts - this is part one of my compiled list of "things" that helped, and of course, I shall pair them all with a cup of tea! 
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This Tender Land by William Kent Kruger was one of the best books I read in 2021. It was so good that I passed it around with Grami and Mom. This is a coming-of-age story from a first-person narrative. It will make you laugh, cry, think & has a really good ending though it's not what you are expecting. The book as a whole is about friendship and the choices we make as we grow up and realize the world around us isn't always friendly. 

The book is earnest, and kind - it will leave you feeling like a better human for reading it.
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Since I read this book through the summer of 2021, I recommend sipping the Basil Mint - my favorite tea blend to have over ice!
“If we were perfect, the light He shines on us would just bounce right off. But the wrinkles, they catch the light. And the cracks, that’s how the light gets inside us. When I pray, Odie, I never pray for perfection. I pray for forgiveness, because it’s the one prayer I know will always be answered.” - This Tender Land
The Mountains Sing by Nguyen Phan Que Mai is probably the best book I have read in the last 10 years. This story is told by 3 women - a daughter, a mother, and a grandmother over the course of several decades. This book was an education. Starting before the Vietnam War and carrying us through the war and into the present, the story is raw and emotional, and inspiring. 

When I finished it I was so moved by the story, that I tweeted about it and told everyone I could about it. Overall, it's a story about family and the resilience of Vietnamese women.

Trigger warnings: this book does contain graphic depictions of war, sexual assault, and at times you may need to put the book down. I also downloaded the audiobook for the first few chapters to help with the pronunciation of names & locations which was helpful for me.

This book requires some delicate steeping & meditation - I recommend Tieguanyin, named after the Chinese Goddess of Compassion & Mercy.
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“I learned then that as long as I have my voice, I am still alive." - The Mountains Sing
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The Giver of Stars - JoJo Moyes was a book I read through the first few months of 2020, sitting at the tea stand. This book is so good and will make you cry in happy ways. It's about a motley crew of ladies who run a traveling library in the mountains of Kentucky. JoJo Moyes has been a favorite author of mine for a long time and she handles complex female characters with grace and dignity & honesty. 

Big feminist energy in this book is about breaking free of expectations & finding yourself in the most unlikely of places & ways. It's about teaching yourself not to make negative assumptions about people and places but also the importance of contributing time and efforts to something bigger than yourself. 

This book is inspiring and communal and full of friendships - I recommend sipping on a nice pot of The Duchess since it's a blend I dedicated to another group of strong women in a time when women weren't supposed to ride horses or organize for the greater good.
“Maybe that’s the thing we need to understand, Alice. That some things are a gift, even if you don’t get to keep them.” There was a silence before he spoke again. “Maybe just to know that something this beautiful exists is all we can really ask for.” - The Giver of Stars
Anxious People by Fredrik Backman is a deeply personal one for me. If you have made it this far in the post, I am assuming you care about me on some level to read my thoughts on my favorite books of the last two years - so here go some really vulnerable personal confessions.

At the end of 2020 and early 2021, I hit a wall emotionally and physically. I was really struggling with a deep depression after a miscarriage in early November and the weight of being curbside with no end in sight. I got this book in mid-November of 2020 and it took me 4 months to finish it because it just hit so close to home for me on so many levels. This book deals with anxiety - and suicide - but in a way that is extremely kind. It also deals with a bank robbery and divorce and grief and hilarious misunderstandings.

This book is FUNNY - Backman is very dialogue-heavy and winds and weaves you through multiple characters and storylines that all come together - eventually. It is not the book I expected it or wanted it to be, it was even better. The last 3 pages of this book are some of the best pages I have ever read in my life and I got to watch my mom read them in the tea shop back in May, as tears rolled down her cheeks. 

This book is best read with a relaxing tea blend like Cherry Chamomile. 
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​“We can't change the world, and a lot of the time we can't even change people. No more than one bit at a time. So we do what we can to help whenever we get the chance, sweetheart. We save those we can. We do our best. Then we try to find a way to convince ourselves that that will just have to...be enough. So we can live with our failures without drowning.” - Anxious People
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All The Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr was an audiobook that Jordan and I listened to on a road trip through the Dakotas in September of 2020. An exceptional WWII book that is told by various main characters. Jordan and I have been doing road trip audiobooks together since our honeymoon in 2009. We really enjoyed this book and finished it on the very last leg of our trip.

We were completely drawn in with this story and the audio performance was really well done on Audible, too. We found ourselves listening to it even in the parking lot with our take-out food in our lap. My love for this book is mostly because of the relationship the author clearly has with the ocean, and how eloquently he can put that into words. And, the perils of family and friendships in a war that divided so many people.

I recommend this one to be sipped with a savory English Breakfast tea with milk & honey. 
“I have been feeling very clearheaded lately and what I want to write about today is the sea. It contains so many colors. Silver at dawn, green at noon, dark blue in the evening. Sometimes it looks almost red. Or it will turn the color of old coins. Right now the shadows of clouds are dragging across it, and patches of sunlight are touching down everywhere. White strings of gulls drag over it like beads.

It is my favorite thing, I think, that I have ever seen. Sometimes I catch myself staring at it and forget my duties.

​It seems big enough to contain everything anyone could ever feel.” - All The Light We Cannot See
This started as one post but in order for me to give the time needed for each thing, I am breaking it up into parts, so stay tuned for Part Two: Televison & Documentaries! Hope you find a new book or author in this batch of good books and don't forget to support your local libraries and bookstores!
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